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One simple question for the best college and career advice

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January 6, 2021

You have the freedom to do what you want with your life and knowing that can be both a liberating gift and a heavy burden.

Your future is an important one and making decisions now that will last a lifetime can be overwhelming. One of the best ways to make any decision is to gather information and ask questions – especially of those people who have already had the experience of making these decisions.

The key to getting people to help you is in how you ask the question. Of course, the question should be polite, but more specifically, you need to focus on the words you use to ask for help. Rather than asking someone to tell you what to do with your life, ask them what they recommend for you.

The difference may be subtle, but it comes down to the difference between asking for orders versus asking for guidance. Most people won't want to tell what to do with your life. However, many people are willing to share their experience and give you guidance based on what they know.